Why I Quit My Job To Become A Writer
Most of you who follow my Instagram know that I use to be a stunt woman, but not everyone realizes that I had plenty of odd jobs after my stunt career got shelved.
The short of it is, the writers strike devastated the industry for a lot of people, and after I realized my time in Hollywood was over, I became the best damn restaurant manager ever to exist.
Being a restaurant manager has been a significant influence on why I decided to focus my career on writing. While working in the food industry, I dealt with sexism, work abuse, gender inequality, and I was fighting for the rights of my employees as well as my own on a daily basis.
This is my story of why I decided to quit my salary job as a restaurant manager to follow my dream as a professional writer.
I was often working 16+hour days, six days a week, and even on my day off, I would usually come into work to fix another manager's mistakes or to cover someone else's shift.
My brain was always on work-mode. It got to the point when I could no longer go out and enjoy myself. My life was the restaurant, and everything I did or said reflected upon that restaurant. I lost my individuality. I wasn't a person anymore. I was a machine.
One of the biggest issues I had was dealing with my management team. Our General Manager resorted to bully-tactics to get the employees he didn't like to quit, because he didn't want to pay for their unemployment, and most of the other members were monsters.
I was the only female manager on the team, and my kitchen staff and all my servers came to me for all their problems because they felt their voices weren't being heard by anyone else. I did my best to be empathetic and worked hard to fix every issue that came up, and my staff knew that they could count on me to have their backs.
The owner ignored all complaints about the male management staff, who were in constant rotation, and making my job harder than necessary.
The Male Managers Were All Horrible.
When I first arrived at the company, there was an original staff of managers on the team. The one I worked with first, watched porn all day in the office, and sexually harassed our female servers without repercussions. He eventually left on his own terms and received a massive bonus to do so quietly. The next manager that our GM hired was caught on camera stealing server tips and then taking money from the restaurant's cash drop at the end of the night. He wasn't fired either, and this went on for several weeks until I convinced the owners to confront him about the missing cash. This manager felt the confrontation was too invasive for him, and he quit on his own. The man they hired next was a manipulative liar who was homophobic and verbally abusive to our gay servers. Within a few weeks, he decided to quit because he didn't want to work longer than five-hour shifts.
Then there was the manager who was always drunk on the job and harassed everyone. He was considered a "functional drunk" by the owner's standards, and so he was not fired or reprimanded when he didn't show up to work because of a hangover. He later had a lawsuit personally filed against him by one of our female servers, to which she won, and he decided to quit soon after because of the backlash he faced.
The last guy they hired was our bartender, who was promoted to the management team. He was honest about not wanting the extra responsibility, so I took on most of the work with the expectation that he would eventually quit. It was this person who pulled me aside to tell me that he was being paid $700 more than I was. I was shocked to hear it, and upon further investigation, I discovered that all of the male managers had been making a substantial amount more than me.